Agreement & Rules
By attending our events you must adhere to our code of conduct that indicate the behaviours and rules that are acceptable and must be followed. These are put in place to ensure that everyone feels safe and welcome in our spaces.
By coming to Pinky Promise, you are doing so because you want to expand your understanding of the self, challenge your prejudice and constructions and connect with other like minded sensual deviants. We ask that you please take full responsibility for your own experience, remain open minded, broaden the limits of your comfort zone and as a must, always ask for consent.
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Agreements
- You are responsible for your own experience and interactions with others.
- You agree to respect other peoples boundaries and ensure you give as much space as they require to feel safe.
- You agree on using clear direct verbal communication where you can feel confident in expressing your boundaries, expectations and desires.
- You agree that you are able to say “Yes or No” in an appropriate way.
- You agree to maintain confidentiality and not disclose anyone's identities, stories or experiences.
- You agree to having a mindful approach to your consumption on the night in order to not become intoxicated.
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Play
Sexual exploration is an intrinsic part that ties our community together. At our events we approach sensuality in a creative and playful way and offer safe spaces for intimacy.
How you wish to express and explore this is entirely up to you. We encourage you to connect with yourself and others in a way that honours your boundaries and serves your desires. Remember to not yuck on other peoples yum. We are a home to celebrate rather than shame peoples kinks as long as they are done so consensually.
Whilst all forms of sex can take place at our parties, we also recognise that sex in itself can be such a genital focused experience. At our parties we therefore invite you to challenge and evolve your perception of pleasure, especially beyond penetration.
There’s no pressure to participate and there are plenty of spaces for flirting and more platonic means of connection. We seek to create an environment that fosters a healthy approach to ethical hedonism.
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Safe(r)
Our rules will be sent to every attendee and will also be present throughout the spaces. Our events are a safe place to be expressive and intimate ensuring that you remain respectful of others around you.
If you see anyone being uncomfortable or looking for help please act on it, if however you feel uncomfortable getting involved, please approach our Pinky Patrol team who are trained to safe guard our spaces and are equipped to manage the situation. They wear a pink hi vis and can be found in all of the rooms of our events.
Our Pinky Patrol will be roaming across the spaces to keep an eye on things and make sure these standards are upheld and anyone who doesn't adhere to them will be asked to leave. The Pinky Patrol will also be available if you have a concern or just want to chat. We are there to support you.
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Inclusivity
Everyone is welcome at Pinky Promise! We welcome folks of all sexual orientations, racial identities/ethnicities, gender expressions, abilities, and body types.
We are a community that is queer friendly and body positive! We have zero tolerance towards racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, body-shaming, ageism, ableism or discrimination of any kind whatsoever. Do not make derogatory comments or jokes on others.
Remain open minded and reach beyond your comfort zone. The nature of Pinky Promise and our events heavily relies on being open to others, respecting boundaries and remaining creatively curious, which allows for a safer space and more collaborative environment to be formed.
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Consent
If there is someone that makes you feel uncomfortable, for ANY reason, then you should let them know. You do not owe somebody attention nor do you owe them your time or energies.
If you are not interested or do not have the capacity to engage you are completely in your right to say so. That includes touching without asking, coming on too strongly, saying an offence remark or simply not making you feel welcome or comfortable. Whilst public play might happening in front of you, it does not mean you are entitled to join.
Unless it's an absolutely enthusiastic YES, everything else must be considered as a NO. People can change their mind, therefore remember that a YES can always turn to a NO and that must be respected every time!
Do not coerce or pressure others to interact with you. If you have recieved a no, don’t take it personally. Rather, feel you can thank them for expressing clearly their boundaries.
A key pillar to creating an atmosphere of trust and respect in our spaces is ensuring that everyone is respectful to one another.
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Soberness
We understand that having some drinks or consuming certain particles can be joyous. We also know that the level of responsibility we can take for our actions and feelings is affected by drinks and particles.
We don’t judge anyone based on their consumption habits and wish for all attendees to feel comfortable and free to be their most expressive version of themselves. Yet, we suggest asking yourself some questions as you explore the realms of Pinky Promise:
Am I enhancing my experience or escaping something?
Am I still in touch with myself?
Can I still sense the boundaries of myself and others?
Do I do this out of habit or did I make a conscious choice?
Do I know when to stop?
We look forward to welcoming you into our garden of sensual pleasures and hope you interact with the space and others in a way that makes you feel empowered, present and playful!
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Confidentiality
We will have a professional team capturing the event so please keep your cameras and phones packed away for the duration of the event. If for whatever reason you need to use your phone, take it outside.
Remember that what happens at Promise stays at Pinky Promise.
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Costume
For our parties we encourage our audiences to adhere to our simple dress code policy: Dress to express!
We want everyone to feel most comfortable within themselves whilst at our events and would not wish for you to appear to be anyone that you aren’t.
Present your soft & sensual seductive spirit or be daring, decadent & fierce!
Our temple of expression contains no judgement, only celebration! Elevate your shine, embody your sparkle, show us your glow!
See our inspiration board here!
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